Self-esteem is simply how you feel about yourself and how you judge your worth.
This evaluation has a profound impact on the choices you make since it determines, to a great extent, what you consider yourself capable and worthy of doing.
The quote above shows the cyclical relationships between self-esteem and our actions. If we value ourselves and, therefore, our time, we’ll do things that are meaningful, which in turn makes us more valuable to ourselves (as well as the world around us).
Without a proper amount of self-valuing, we don’t pursue meaningful activities. Instead, we get stuck in a cycle of devaluing ourselves and not doing anything meaningful to boost our sense of self-worth.
People with low self-esteem – who feel poorly about themselves and judge themselves to be inferior to others – are at risk, then, of not fulfilling their true potential in life. They may not take the initiative to set and pursue personal goals; they may not put any effort into their education or careers; they may accept poor treatment from family, friends and romantic partners.
Self-esteem is a state of mind, and it can be changed. However, you can only improve your self-esteem if you are first willing to challenge the negative feelings, negative beliefs and judgments you have toward yourself.
No matter how convinced you are of your current evaluation of yourself, you have nothing to lose and the world to gain by considering that you have much more control over your self-esteem than you think. Making the choice to challenge your thinking may change how you think and what you do, now and in the future.
Symptoms of lack of Self-Esteem:
- You don’t think you’re good enough
- You don’t believe in yourself
- You seek approval from other people
- You compare yourself to others